Today is the day; get out of your own way. Sometimes we have such self-defeating attitudes and thoughts that we put ourselves into a rut that thwarts us from productive living and puts us in a tailspin of worry and fear. Do you sometimes think you aren’t good enough and therefore don’t try? Are you afraid of success? Or perhaps unclear of what you want of life?
Here are 3 Principles I have learned to live more productively:
Recognize You are Sleeping with the Enemy
When I was in college, I dated one of the computer techs at my school. One day while getting my laptop fixed I overheard the other techies helping another student and commenting that he thought the problem was simply a PEBCAC. When he said this all the techs erupted in laughter. Confused, I asked my boyfriend what that meant and he said he’d tell me later. Apparently, PEBCAC means “Problem Exists Between Computer And Chair!” Well, of course, I was glad they weren’t talking about me. But as I reflect on life, I see how in situations not related to technology, the problem has existed with me and not the person or external circumstance that I tried to blame it on. Much to my demise, the problem simply began and ended with me. I am my own worst enemy. And I have to fight myself everyday to overcome the thoughts, patterns, and habits that come so easily to me and replace with them with healthier emotional responses. It was MY choices, MY thoughts, MY attitudes, MY reactions that landed me in the position I was in. If I felt I was not accomplishing my goals, did I really have anyone else to blame? No one held a gun to my head demanding that I procrastinate, make excuses, treat myself or others badly. I had to learn to own my stuff and fight against me, not the rest of the world. Take responsibility for who you are, who you are not, what you choose to do and what you choose not to do.
Focus on What You Want, Not How to Get There
The next thing you need to do is focus on what you want out of life, rather than spending so much time on how to get there. I read in a blog article by Michael Hyatt that when your goal is absolutely clear, achieving it becomes that much easier. Most times we spend too much time focusing on the wrong part of the equation. Clarity and focus on goals not processes are essential to staying on track. We have an innate ability to guide ourselves and make more intentional decisions when we are certain about what we want to accomplish.
In the 107 year-old classic, “As a Man Thinketh” it is said that a man is literally what he thinks; the sum total of his thoughts is his character. If you think you can’t, you won’t. It’s that simple. It’s all a state of mind. Victory over life battles doesn’t go to the person that is faster, smarter, or stronger; ultimately the victory goes to the one who simply believes he can.
I was taught:
Sow a thought, reap an action. Sow an action, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap your destiny.
Your success begins with a single thought.
In Spite of Hardship, Press On
Life happens to everybody. That’s a given. Good things happen to bad people, bad things happen to good people. But you can decide that giving up is not an option. This is perhaps the most important decision a person makes in life. It is the decision where winners and losers separate themselves. You must eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary. It must be so engrained in you that you will fight and do what is takes to succeed that no obstacle seems insurmountable. That’s not to say you won’t have concerns or doubts at times. But you recognize that although life brings circumstances that are not always kind, and that we sometimes make poor decisions we cannot always change, we will continue pressing on.
Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest player in the history of basketball, said
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
It’s not that winners always win. It’s simply that they didn’t settle for losing.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchill.
Commit to Lifelong Learning
Wisdom is defined as the right application of knowledge. Many of us can be smart but not wise. Knowledge sometimes puffs us up to the point of conceit thus we become unteachable. I propose you must commit to learn from life and all it has to offer. There is always a lesson to be learned. It takes a certain depth of character to own up to your mistakes and seek to learn the lesson. There will always be someone that knows more than you about something. It is why we have two ears and one mouth. We should be willing to listen and learn more than we are fighting to talk.
The principles I have outlined are challenging at best, but not impossible. The questions that remains is: Are you willing to take your life to the next level?
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